{"id":2492,"date":"2020-05-19T08:12:25","date_gmt":"2020-05-19T08:12:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/?p=2492"},"modified":"2025-04-02T19:37:54","modified_gmt":"2025-04-02T19:37:54","slug":"bottoming-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/bottoming-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Bottoming Tips from Anal Sex Pros"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>What is bottoming? How do I get started? b-Vibe&#8217;s newly appointed ambassador,&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Zachary Zane Twitter\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/ZacharyZane_\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Zachary Zane<\/a><\/strong>, gives the complete lowdown on this act of anal play!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p><em>Writer&#8217;s note: Throughout this article, we will be referring to the genitals of someone assigned male at birth as a penis and using masculine pronouns, but these tips will work on a wide range of folx regardless of their gender identity or what they call their privates.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"b-Vibe Anal Play 101 Blog\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">b-Vibe Blog<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;has really got you covered when it comes to any and all questions you have about anal sex. Not sure how to prepare (i.e. &#8220;clean out&#8221;) before anal? Head over to&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"How to prepare for anal sex\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-hygiene\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">anal hygiene<\/a><\/strong>. How to choose the right lube? Look no further than&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"How to choose the best anal lube\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/best-anal-lube\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">lube 101<\/a><\/strong>. How to have an earth-shattering p-spot orgasm? Boom,&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Complete guide to prostate stimulation\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/prostate-play\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">prostate play<\/a><\/strong>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As the new brand ambassador for b-Vibe, I was thinking what else can I add? That&#8217;s when I realized I could speak to professional adult performers about some more advanced tips for bottoming, delving past the basics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But before I get there, you might wonder&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">What is bottoming?<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When it comes to anal sex in queer culture, a &#8220;bottom&#8221; refers to the anal receptive partner (the person who&#8217;s being penetrated). A top refers to the anal insertive partner (the person who&#8217;s penetrating). Bottoming refers to the act of being penetrated and topping refers to the act of penetrating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the terms don&#8217;t only pertain to queer culture. A straight man can bottom for a straight woman with a strap-on (what&#8217;s commonly referred to as&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"What is pegging?\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/pegging\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">pegging<\/a><\/strong>). There&#8217;s&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Will anal play make me gay?\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/does-having-or-wanting-anal-make-me-gay\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">nothing inherently &#8220;gay&#8221;<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;about bottoming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"width: 100%; margin-bottom: 15px;\" src=\"https:\/\/media.bvibe.com\/Bottoming-101-with-Zachary-Zane.mp4\" width=\"670\" height=\"377\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Among the BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism) community, a bottom doesn&#8217;t have to do with anal sex. It simply refers to the submissive partner in sexual play (the person being flogged, tied, humiliated, made to serve, etc.) The top is the dominant partner who&#8217;s doing the flogging, tying, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But for today, we&#8217;re talking about bottoming in the terms of anal sex. Specifically, we&#8217;re discussing how to become a pro bottom. I asked five different adult performers, all of whom have&nbsp;<em>plenty&nbsp;<\/em>of experience bottoming, for insider tips. Some of the tips they gave are great for beginners, and others are ideal for intermediate bottoms who want to reach porn star status.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Bottoming tips for beginners and pros<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>That said, the list starts with more basic bottoming tips, and each tip gets progressively more advanced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>1. Start with toys, specifically, an anal training kit.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>You crawl before you walk and you walk before you run. The same principle applies to bottoming.\u00a0<strong><a title=\"Lydia Black Twitter\" rel=\"noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/LydiaBlackXo\" target=\"_blank\">Lydia Black<\/a><\/strong>, a professional porn and BDSM model, recommends using <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/all-anal-toys\/anal-training\/\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/all-anal-toys\/anal-training\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">anal training kits<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bottoming-tips-b-vibe-01.jpg\" alt=\"The easiest way to practice bottoming is with the aid of an anal training kit\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>However, she doesn&#8217;t recommend using butt plugs where the diameter of the base is sizably different from the head. &#8220;It will do nothing for training unless you sit there, taking them in and out for hours.&#8221; You want a <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/all-anal-toys\/butt-plugs\/\" data-type=\"URL\" data-id=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/all-anal-toys\/butt-plugs\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">butt plug<\/a><\/strong> that you can insert inside of you and let sit, Lydia explains. b-Vibe&#8217;s\u00a0<strong><a title=\"b-Vibe Anal Training Kit\" rel=\"noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-training-kit.html\" target=\"_blank\">anal training kit<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0does just that!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>2. Lube is everything.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>There is no such thing as too much lube, explains the OnlyFans model who goes by the moniker&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"DamagedBttm Twitter\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/DamagedBttm\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">DamagedBttm<\/a><\/strong>. For anal sex, it&#8217;s often better to use a&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"System Jo Silicone-Based Lube for Anal\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/sensual-care\/jo-premium-anal-silicone-based-lube.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">silicone-based lube<\/a><\/strong>&nbsp;because it&#8217;s more viscous and less likely to dry out. (Ideally, you want to reapply lube as few times as possible during sex.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bottoming-tips-b-vibe-02.jpg\" alt=\"Lube is absolutely essential when it comes to bottoming and anal play\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Make sure the top covers their penis or dildo in lube and you insert lube into your behind with a finger before you try bottoming,&#8221; DamagedBttm adds. Note, however, that when you&#8217;re using b-Vibe&#8217;s toys, you want to use a water-based lube. Using a silicone-based lube will degrade the toy&#8217;s material.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>3. Make sure you&#8217;re turned on.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Being aroused will actually allow your body to naturally loosen up, explains longtime adult film performer&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Lance Hart Twitter\" href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/lancehartfetish\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Lance Hart<\/a><\/strong>, who&#8217;s actually the director and owner of ManUpFilms.com and SweetFemdom.com.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bottoming-tips-b-vibe-03.jpg\" alt=\"Being aroused before anal play will help you become a better bottom\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Think slutty thoughts,&#8221; he suggests. That&#8217;s why, personally, I start with a lot of foreplay before I bottom \u2014 kissing, heavy petty, the works. When I&#8217;m having fun with toys alone, I always watch porn for a few minutes before even attempting to insert anything in my behind. I need to be&nbsp;<em>really&nbsp;<\/em>aroused otherwise, I don&#8217;t loosen up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>4. Start on top.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>There&#8217;s no &#8220;perfect&#8221; starting position when it comes to bottoming. Some folks prefer to start in doggy, others prefer missionary.&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Nick Alvarez Instragram\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/i.edwardnick\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Nick Alvarez<\/a><\/strong>, a booty Instagrammer and Just For Fans Exclusive Model, recommends that beginners start &#8220;on top&#8221; in a cowgirl position.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/static.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bottoming-tips-b-vibe-04.jpg\" alt=\"The best bottoming tip is to start 'on top' so that you can control the depth and pace of anal penetration\"\/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Starting in this position will allow you to control the speed and depth of penetration,&#8221; he says. Sometimes, tops can get a little too excited and shove it fully when you&#8217;re not quite ready. It can be&nbsp;<em>very<\/em>&nbsp;painful, trust me, and could potentially cause <strong><a title=\"fissures\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/anal-fissures\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fissures<\/a><\/strong> and <strong><a title=\"anal scarring\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/anal-scarring\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">anal scarring<\/a><\/strong>. When you start in a cowgirl position, you&#8217;re the one in control. Take your time as you ride your partner. Let the anticipation build. The longer you wait, the crazier you&#8217;ll drive your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>5. Take deep &#8220;belly&#8221; breaths.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Breathing is key to being an incredible bottom, explains DamagedBttm. There are typically two types of breathing \u2014 chest breaths and belly breaths (also called&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Learning diaphragmatic breathing\" href=\"https:\/\/www.health.harvard.edu\/lung-health-and-disease\/learning-diaphragmatic-breathing\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">diaphragmatic breathing<\/a><\/strong>). You want to take deep belly breaths, which uses your full lung capacity. These deep breaths can help relax your body, allowing you to &#8220;take&#8221; more penis or dildo, DamagedBttm explains. To make sure you&#8217;re belly breathing correctly, put one hand on your stomach and the other on your chest. While you breathe, only your stomach should move (outward, not upward). Your chest shouldn&#8217;t move at all!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>6. &#8220;Push out.&#8221;<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Again, this is one of those things where you have to see if it works for you, but something I do, as well as adult film star&nbsp;<strong><a title=\"Skyy Knox Instagram\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/skyyknox\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Skyy Knox<\/a><\/strong>, is &#8220;push out&#8221; when you&#8217;re receiving their penis or dildo. Pushing out is the opposite of clenching. &#8220;When I push out, I open more, and the D just slides right in,&#8221; Knox says. This tip is definitely for anal sex pros, as many beginners prefer relaxing and neither pushing out nor clenching when they start bottoming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>7. Squeeze while they&#8217;re inside of you.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>If you really want to give your partner an incredible sensation, squeeze (or clench) while they&#8217;re inside of you. &#8220;You can even pulse your squeezes, too,&#8221; says Knox. &#8220;It drives my tops wild.&#8221; Squeezing adds pressure around your partner&#8217;s penis or dildo, &#8220;tightening&#8221; momentarily. When a bottom does this for me when I top, I orgasm almost instantly. It feels&nbsp;<em>that&nbsp;<\/em>good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em><strong>Were these tips useful? Check out our other popular guides for bottoms on <a title=\"best diet for anal sex\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/eating-for-anal\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">what to eat before anal sex<\/a>, maintaining an <a title=\"staying hard while bottoming\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/erection-while-bottoming\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">erection while bottoming<\/a>, and <a title=\"bottoming with ibs\" href=\"https:\/\/www.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/anal-sex-with-ibs\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">how to have anal sex with ibs<\/a>.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What is bottoming? 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