Not at all. We covered this in our last #AMA, but I imagine it\u2019s a question we\u2019ll get often. Fisting is perplexing, especially when you first learn about it. I saw fisting porn accidentally before ever reading anything about it, and it was quite horrifying \u2014 I vowed I would never do it. Today, fisting is the closest thing I have to a religion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Fisting is misunderstood primarily because of the word \u201cfisting,\u201d which suggests something violent, dangerous, damaging. The image of a balled fist breaking through a barrier, punching, wounding \u2014 this image suggests injury. I think the English have a better word, a more elegant and sporty term: handballing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n MASTER: The beginner’s guide on how to prepare for anal fisting<\/a>!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Regardless of which word you prefer, the sex act baffles the mind, at least at first. A penis can be overwhelming and painful, so a fist must take someone to the point of incontinence. But that\u2019s not the case. Fist bottoms train, usually over many years, slowly stretching the anus, building its strength and elasticity, to take a fist. Doing this gives them more control over their butt muscles, not less. Now, I won\u2019t say there are no very extreme fisters out there who might have to hurry to the bathroom a bit faster than their neighbors, but I know guys who get fisted several times a week \u2014 even daily \u2014 and never have any issues. Incontinence problems typically happen from injury, and injury most often occurs when you fist unsafely. Most fisters have perfectly normal butts. If that weren\u2019t the case, all the people who are into fisting would not be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The ass muscles are elastic. Even after taking huge penises, massive toys, hands, and more, the butt closes back up, usually within a few seconds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A sex expert I know once told me something I\u2019ve not forgotten: You either clean for less than fifteen minutes or you clean for 1.5 hours. There\u2019s no middle ground. Unless you\u2019re doing heavy-depth play with toys or fisting, there\u2019s no need to clean for an hour. If you\u2019re just cleaning for regular anal sex or toy play, you are over-cleaning and irritating your bowels in the process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Keep the water at low pressure. I use a lard-based lube (Crisco, coconut oil lube<\/a><\/strong>, something of that nature) and hold the nozzle in my butt for five seconds, then immediately push the water out. Then I hold it in my butt for ten seconds and hold it for as long as I can, or until my body tells me to expel. This signals to the brain that there\u2019s something in my butt that needs to be released. I do this same pattern (5 seconds, expel, 10 seconds, hold until uncomfortable, expel) three to ten times, no more. It should take no more than 15 minutes. (This method only works with a shower hose or portable shower shot, which I recommend using over a hand bulb \u2014 hand pump bulbs are best for on-the-go and emergencies, good to keep in a bag when you go to a hookup.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n RELATED: Master how to prepare for anal sex<\/a> like a pro and learn the good, the bad, and the messy about enema play<\/a>!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The saying goes that you can\u2019t out-douche a bad diet \u2014 a \u201cbad diet\u201d here means a diet low in fiber and high in processed food and saturated fats \u2014\u00a0and fiber pills go a long way to helping a diet improve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n ANSWERED: The best things to eat before anal<\/a>!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n If this is not working, you might want to talk to a doctor, who might be able to determine if you have a food allergy or IBS. Many bottoms work around their issues and learn how to have anal sex with IBS<\/a><\/strong>, they just have to do a bit more work and know their bodies a little better. Everyone\u2019s body responds to foods differently, so doing \u201ctests\u201d to see how your body responds to what you eat and how quickly you have a bowel movement can help you optimally time things in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Anyone can have an anal orgasm \u2014 or buttgasm \u2014 but no one is required to like anal sex. Anal orgasms, like all orgasms, require some practice and skill before you experience them, so if you\u2019re new to anal sex, I\u2019d say start off with some self anal masturbation<\/a><\/strong> and keep practicing with toys and with a partner you connect with. Like any other orgasm, you might need to give yourself an anal orgasm before you know how to experience one with someone else. Humans often masturbate before they have sex, and masturbation is an important step in sexual development, as it teaches us how to feel pleasure, which then lets us teach others how to give us pleasure. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The only way to give yourself an anal orgasm is to play with toys like dildos and plugs. My first anal orgasm came from toy play. Toys let you go at your own speed and explore new and uncomfortable (and ultimately wonderful) feelings. There\u2019s no easy way to define a buttgasm, as everyone experiences orgasm differently, but mine are full-body and loud \u2014 I can\u2019t take a breath, except to yell. It\u2019s beautiful and feels very sexual, but only after years of practice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Cheers,<\/p>\n\n\n\n Alex<\/p>\n\n\n\n .<\/p>\n\n\n\n 1. What is analingus<\/a>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2. What is the difference between an anal massage<\/a> and anal fingering<\/a>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3. What is the best position for anal sex<\/a>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n![\"202107-ass-me-anything-3-2\"\/](\"https:\/\/static.bvibe.com\/anal-play-101\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/202107-Ass-Me-Anything-3-2.jpg\")
<\/figure>\n\n\n\n\u201cWhat\u2019s your best advice to having anal frequently? I\u2019ve found that diet changes don\u2019t help me and sometimes I\u2019ll be using an enema with water for an hour before I give up.\u201d <\/em>\u2014 Bales <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\u201cCan a woman learn to orgasm from butt penetration? I like to be submissive, but ass sex doesn’t feel sexual to me.\u201d<\/em> \u2014 Jillybeans<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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