PROSTATE PLAY: HOW TO HAVE A PROSTATE ORGASM

Before you jump into the deep end, here's a checklist of things you need to consider:

• 1) Hygiene — Master

  how to prep for anal play

   like a pro.
• 2) Lube — Learn how to choose the

  best anal lube

   play.
• 3) Consent — Not sure

  how to introduce your partner to anal?

  
  Read our tried and tested guide.

Trying butt stuff for the first time can feel scary or uncomfortable if you're not in the right mindset, especially if you're working through all those silly taboos about having a penis and enjoying booty penetration.

Thankfully, you can enjoy prostate stimulation without having to go all the way up. There are thousands of ultra-sensitive nerve endings around the entry of your butt, both inside and out, which makes stuff like rimming or massaging that region feel amazing. Bonus: sweeten the deal by combining anal with genital play and see sparks fly! It's also a fantastic way to warm up for anal penetration.

The other way to stimulate the P-spot is by getting your lubricant ready and lathering up your finger. Remember to trim your nails, keep them clean, and use some gloves if you prefer them for anal fun.

Start by inserting one finger. The prostate should feel like a ripe plum: firm, with a little give to it. If you can't find it, try adding some familiar pleasure like oral sex or an erotic massage first. Arousal makes the prostate begin to fill up and get more substantial, which makes it both easier to find and feel more pleasurable.

Once you've found the prostate gland, there are a lot of different massage moves you can try. Many of these will sound similar to G-spot massage techniques:

Try doing a "come hither" motion with your fingertip. Use the pad of the finger, not the tip, to avoid scratching. And remember - stroke, don't poke! Keep a slow, steady rhythm, and use firm pressure. You might need to vary the tempo and pressure until you find the right combination, so start slower and lighter, and then add more. If you're using two fingers, try the "come hither" motion at the same time, or try "finger walking".

Another popular move is tapping. Start with the pressure you use when typing on a keyboard and try going faster or slower. Each time you change things up, ask him to tell you if it feels better or not. Everyone is a little different, so listen to feedback and watch how the body responds. If you have two fingers on the P-spot, you can tap them together or alternate as if you're playing the piano.

You can also do big circles across the entire prostate, little circles on just one spot, or do little circles and move them around. With circles, it's easy to go too quickly, so try to keep a steady rhythm. Some people like to put on some music with a strong beat or bass line to help them keep the pace.

Don't forget that stillness can be incredibly pleasurable too. Keep a constant pressure without movement, or try gently pulsing the pressure while maintaining contact. Sometimes, that can be someone's favorite prostate massage move.

Just as when you're giving someone a shoulder rub, it's good to do one technique for a bit and then change it up. The nerves get used to it if you stick with one thing, so keep paying attention to signals by varying what you do every so often. The one exception to that is when your partner is getting close to an orgasm. When that happens, stick with whatever is working.