HOW TO HAVE A PROSTATE ORGASM
If you have a prostate or have a partner who has one, you've probably wondered what all the buzz is about hitting the P-spot (the male equivalent of the female G-spot).
Prostate stimulation is one way to expand your pleasure possibilities, and it can have some incredible health benefits too! Whether you're looking to experience deeper orgasms or to release toxins from your body, milking your prostate is something to consider in your solo or partnered anal play.
We rounded up the best sex educators to create the most comprehensive and inclusive guide on prostate orgasms.
If you have a prostate or have a partner who has one, you've probably wondered what all the buzz is about hitting the P-spot (the male equivalent of the female G-spot).
Prostate stimulation is one way to expand your pleasure possibilities, and it can have some incredible health benefits too! Whether you're looking to experience deeper orgasms or to release toxins from your body, milking your prostate is something to consider in your solo or partnered anal play.
We rounded up the best sex educators to create the most comprehensive and inclusive guide on prostate play.
what is the prostate?
The prostate (also known as the P-spot) is a walnut-sized gland in the male reproductive system. It produces a milky-like fluid that combines with sperm to form ejaculate.
Stimulating or "hitting the P-spot" can lead to intense full-body orgasms, according to prostate-play lovers.
Where is the prostate located?
The prostate rests below the bladder and next to the rectum, and you can feel it through the rectum's front wall.
To find the P-spot, insert an anal toy or finger about 2-4 inches (5-10 cm) and angle it towards your belly button. When aroused, your prostate will fill up with prostatic fluid and become easier to find. It'll also become more sensitive to touch, but more on that in a second!
WHY DOES PROSTATE STIMULATION FEEL GOOD?
Prostate play and anal play can add new elements to your sex life. The great thing about prostate play is that regardless of your sexuality, you can still enjoy it if you are a penis owner.
However, a lot of men are hesitant about receiving anal pleasure and experiencing prostate orgasms. And some even wonder if it makes them gay. Enjoying prostate stimulation has nothing to do with your sexual preference or identity; it merely means that you're open-minded and explorative enough to feel a different type of orgasm.
What does a prostate orgasm feel like?
Many people who've experienced prostate orgasms describe it as being similar to when they're about to have an orgasm from the genitals.
Others describe it as a more intense or full-bodied orgasm that's comparable to how vulva owners describe their G-spot orgasms. Like G-spot orgasms, a P-spot orgasm can offer an emotional and deeper sense of release, and orgasmic responses and muscle contractions that resonate further in the body.
But keep in mind, no two orgasms are alike and don't get too caught up in anticipating the sensations in advance! P-spot and G-spot play require practice before you see the fireworks. When you do, you'll discover that it is worth the effort.
prostate stimulation 101
BEFORE YOU GET STARTED
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TRY AN EXTERNAL MASSAGE
OR ANALINGUS FIRST
Trying butt stuff for the first time can feel scary or uncomfortable if you're not in the right mindset, especially if you're working through all those silly taboos about having a penis and enjoying booty penetration.
Thankfully, you can enjoy prostate stimulation without having to go all the way up. There are thousands of ultra-sensitive nerve endings around the entry of your butt, both inside and out, which makes stuff like analingus or massaging that region feel amazing. Bonus: Sweeten the deal by combining eating ass with anal fingering and see sparks fly! It's also a fantastic way to warm up for anal penetration.
GETTING INSIDE AND
HITTING THE PROSTATE
The other way to stimulate the P-spot is by getting your lubricant ready and lathering up your finger. Remember to trim your nails, keep them clean, and use some gloves if you prefer them for anal fun.
Start by inserting one finger. The prostate should feel like a ripe plum: firm, with a little give to it. If you can't find it, try adding some familiar pleasure like oral sex or an erotic massage first. Arousal makes the prostate begin to fill up and get more substantial, which makes it both easier to find and feel more pleasurable.
Once you've found the prostate gland, there are a lot of different massage moves you can try. Many of these will sound similar to G-spot massage techniques:
STROKE THE PROSTATE
TAP THE P-SPOT
CIRCLE THE P-SPOT
MIX UP YOUR
PROSTATE MASSAGING TECHNIQUE
Don't forget that stillness can be incredibly pleasurable too. Keep a constant pressure without movement, or try gently pulsing the pressure while maintaining contact. Sometimes, that can be someone's favorite prostate massage move.
Just as when you're giving someone a shoulder rub, it's good to do one technique for a bit and then change it up. The nerves get used to it if you stick with one thing, so keep paying attention to signals by varying what you do every so often. The one exception to that is when your partner is getting close to a prostate orgasm. When that happens, stick with whatever is working.
PROSTATE STIMULATION 101: USE AN ANAL TOY
There are all sorts of anal toys to bring the pleasure of prostate stimulation into your solo or coupled love life.
However, it can be tough to narrow down and choose just one anal toy, especially if you're just getting started, but have your sights set on working your way up in size to a larger toy or penis. Our Anal Training Kit is the perfect solution for the dedicated anal adventurer. This kit contains three essential silicone plugs that feature graduated tapered shapes and come in three progressive sizes.
ARE THERE ANY HEALTH BENEFITS
OF PROSTATE STIMULATION?
Studies have shown that regularly milking the P-spot for prostate orgams, or massaging the prostate to release prostatic fluid, can help reduce the risk of prostate cancer. Releasing prostate fluid also flushes out the gland, and relieves inflammation and pressure in the pelvic area. Increasing blood flow in the area can also increase elasticity, strengthen the pelvic floor, and help prevent erectile challenges over time.
KEEP ON COMIN’
Now before you go, remember that there’s no refractory period involved with prostate play, so you can spend all day pleasuring this amazing organ. (Just make sure your neighbors are out of earshot!).
WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PROSTATE MASSAGING AND PROSTATE MILKING?
While often used interchangeably, prostate milking is more often used to refer to stimulating the prostate for sexual pleasure, as the prostate secretes seminal fluid (“milk”) when stimulated, and can be a deeply pleasurable experience.
Prostate massage has a more medical interpretation as the release of seminal fluid has a number of health benefits, such as improving sperm quality, cleansing the reproductive system, reducing pain and swelling in the prostate, and even alleviating long-term erectile dysfunction.
CAN YOU STILL HAVE AN ERECTION OR EXPERIENCE ORGASMS IF YOUR PROSTATE IS REMOVED?
Since the prostate supplies a significant amount of fluid during ejaculation, removing the prostate eliminates the ability to ejaculate during sex. However, most folks still experience dry orgasms, meaning they will experience orgasm without ejaculating.
It’s important to differentiate ejaculation and orgasms, as they are two different responses to sexual stimulation. Ejaculation is the contraction of pelvic/penile muscles to expel semen, whereas an orgasm is a feeling of intense pleasure caused by a sudden release of brain chemicals.
While both often happen very close to one another, they are different and can occur separately from one another. So while someone without a prostate may not be able to ejaculate, they can still experience orgasm.
According to a 2011 study on people who’ve had their prostates removed via prostatectomy, 75 percent of patients sought treatment for erectile dysfunction afterward, whereas 40 percent reported the inability to orgasm. However, there are a number of different ways to attempt to remedy this, including mediation, injections, rehab, penis pumps, and implants.
CAN TRANS WOMEN HAVE PROSTATE ORGASMS?
Prostate stimulation can feel good for anyone who has a prostate, and Trans women and transfeminine nonbinary people are no exception. People who are assumed or assigned male at birth (AMAB) are born with prostate glands, and a lot of people with prostates enjoy stimulating this gland through anal or vaginal penetration or through massage or pressure on the perineum.
Trans women who are on hormone replacement therapy (HRT) may notice that their prostates become smaller, but that doesn’t mean that their prostates are less sensitive. In fact, hormone therapy can increase sensitivity in erogenous areas which include the prostate.
It might take some exploration to find what types of touch feel good for your prostate if you’re taking hormones. As the size and shape of your prostate change, its positioning might also change a bit. Using different techniques, positions, toys, and amounts of pressure can all be helpful tools for figuring out how to have prostate orgasms.
For Trans women who have had vaginoplasty surgery, the prostate gland isn’t usually removed. The vagina is positioned behind the bladder and prostate, so the positioning is analogous to where the g-spot is located in AFAB people (assumed/assigned female at birth). This means that you can stimulate the prostate through either vaginal or anal stimulation once the vagina is dilated enough for painless penetration.
CAN TRANS MEN HAVE PROSTATE ORGASMS?
Although Trans men and transmasculine nonbinary people are not born with prostate glands, recent studies show that people who are assumed or assigned female at birth (AFAB) who are undergoing hormone replacement therapy (HRT) can develop prostatic tissue. However, these studies are small and preliminary, so there isn’t a ton of information about the relationship between the development of prostatic tissue and orgasms and pleasure.
Though it’s not completely clear if Trans men on HRT can experience prostate pleasure or orgasm, something that is really clear is that all people have butts, and anal play and stimulation can feel really good for anyone, regardless of whether or not you’re on HRT.
If you’re an AFAB transmasculine person, anal penetration can be an excellent way to indirectly stimulate the g-spot. The anus, rectum, and perineum are nerve-rich erogenous zones on their own as well. Try different types of external and internal stimulation to find what kind of anal play feels good for you.
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