Happy 4/20 and welcome to the glorious world of cannabis-assisted anal exploration. We're glad you're here. Whether you're brand new or a seasoned traveler, this post is for you!
First, for those who are just getting to know this fantastic flower, let me assure you that you do not need to be high to enjoy the benefits of cannabis on your pleasurable pursuits. There are non-intoxicating ways of interacting with the plant that will still yield benefits.
The second thing to know, as anyone who has ever tried anal will tell you, communication and self-awareness is vital. They're vital for anal on their own, for cannabis on its own, and even more so when you combine the two.
Third, this is your reminder that with or without cannabis, you can stop at any time, for any reason, and that's totally okay. If something isn't working, just notify your partner so that they can enthusiastically support your boundaries.
The first rule of anal is: whoever's butt is getting touched gets to call the shots. The owner of the butthole gets to micromanage their butthole.
The first rule of cannabis and sex is: negotiate before you medicate. Have a conversation about consent, boundaries, troubleshooting, and how you'll let your partner know if something feels off or you need something different.
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It's also a great time to talk about anal sex aftercare, since it is quite a vulnerable sex act for both partners, but especially the one receiving stimulation.
When used intentionally, cannabis can be helpful in maximizing pleasure and reducing discomfort—without numbing—since as you know, numbing or desensitizing products are something sex educators strongly advise against for anal play.
If you're using toys and have concerns about toy and cannabis product compatibility, never fear - oil is safe to use with silicone, like the Rimming Plug, and other non-porous materials.
There are a number of different ways to incorporate cannabis into your anal play, using different product formulations like topicals, smokeables, and insertables.
Here are some of my favorite cannabis products for anal and how to use them:
Suppositories are small, cone-shaped objects, often made of coconut oil, cocoa butter, or something similar that can be inserted vaginally or rectally. They're often infused with either CBD or THC, or both.
If it's made from oil, which most are (every once in a great while, you'll find one made of glycerine but cannabis is fat-soluble so most cannabis-infused suppositories are oil-based), it's not compatible with latex or polyisoprene barriers. If you're using barriers, make sure they're made from nitrile or polyurethane.
I suggest storing suppositories in the freezer until you're ready to insert one. Then take it out, unwrap it from the packaging, and insert it. You'll need to wait 15-25 minutes for the suppository to fully take effect, so go ahead and start relaxing and connecting with your partner, or discussing your game plan for this particular adventure. You can also lay out your lube, plugs, towels, and other supplies. I suggest inserting the plug after the suppository.
Flower is the green clusters that you buy at your dispensary. Inhalation takes about 2-10 minutes to take effect, which makes it a rapid onset delivery method. Start with one puff—exhale to empty your lungs then breathe all the way in from the joint, vaporizer, or pipe. You don't need to hold it in, just exhale normally.
Make sure that you have water on hand, as lots of people tend to cough. Depending on the concentration of THC and CBD, inhalation can cause intoxicating effects. Make sure you've tried whatever you're using on your own first so you know how it's going to impact you. Get clear on what effects you're looking for so you can choose a product that's well suited to that purpose. And remember that deep breathing is helpful for anal as well, even when you're not inhaling!
These infused bath products are great for helping your body relax before anal. They contain THC, CBD, or both, and no matter what's in the product, it will not get you high (unless you drink the bath water, but I wouldn't!). You'll want to soak for at least 15-20 minutes for maximum effect. It will help your whole body feel relaxed and open.
So however you choose to celebrate 4/20 this year, just know that cannabis presents lots of interesting options for expanding your pleasure in all areas of sex. Happy exploring!