Anal Massage: Master the Best Anal Foreplay Techniques

access_time Last updated : 14 October 2020 /  Anal Play Advice
Master these 8 foreplay moves to give your partner an amazing anal massage

Anal massage - an essential form of anal foreplay - can be a great way to arouse your partner and get them in the mood for anal intercourse. Follow our soft-core illustrations and treat your partner to an anal massage with these 8 sensual moves.

Why You Should Give Your Partner an Anal Massage

Penis-owners and vulva-owners are both blessed with countless erotic nerve endings located at the anal opening- stimulating them with your tongue a.k.a analingus or with your fingers can feel extremely pleasurable!

Also, an anal massage is a perfect way to prepare your body for anal sex.

How to Get Started with an Anal Massage

Before you do anything, ask for consent. We recommend having this conversation in a room where you and your partner don’t regularly have sex or aren’t planning to have sex. So, the bedroom is off-limits.

During an open and honest conversation, ask each other: Is an anal massage something that you both want to do? If either person answers no, then accept that answer. Don't pressurize them into doing something that they're not comfortable with. Now if you both say, “yes”, that's awesome!

LEARN: The tried-and-tested guide on how to talk about anal with your partner.

Tips About Anal Hygiene

Always wash your hands before and after anal play. Besides the obvious, you’ll want to trim your nails and keep them short. We also recommend filing them to make sure that there aren’t any sharp edges that could cause tears in the anus (!).

And if you’re still concerned about hygiene, simply use a glove or a nitrile “finger condom”.

MASTER: How to prep for anal like a sex pro.

Best Lube for Anal Massage

Ideally, you want to use a lube that’s silky-smooth and super long-lasting — We love System JO’s Premium Anal Lube.

You can also use something as simple as coconut oil- it’s versatile, easy to find, and perfect for anal play. This Coconut Love Oil by Woo More Play works great during an anal massage.

CONSIDER: b-Vibe Founder Alicia Sinclairs reveals the best anal lube for different kinds of anal play.

8 Best Anal Massage Techniques

Now that you've mastered anal hygiene and got your lube ready, you're ready to put these 8 anal massage techniques to the test!

1. Draw Big Circles

Start your anal massage by making circular motions around the rim.

Start your anal massage by making circular motions around the anus for sexual pleasure

2. Draw Smaller Circles

Another excellent anal massage technique is to make smaller circular motions around the anus.

Another excellent anal massage technique is to make small circular motions around the anus

3. One Finger Stroke

Stroke the anus gently using one finger to give your partner a different sensation.

One of the easiest anal massage moves is to use a single finger to stroke the anus

4. Three Finger Stroke

The three-finger technique offers wider stimulation and is said to be more pleasurable.

Three fingers stroking the anus during an anal massage for better pleasure and stimulation

5. One Finger Rub

Rubbing the rosebud can enhance sexual satisfaction.

Rub the sphincter vigorously during an anal massage to enhance sexual satisfaction

6. Three Finger Rub

Use three fingers for greater stimulation.

Three fingers rubbing the anus energetically during an anal massage

7. Stroke Down, Both Hands

When you're ready to involve both hands, stroke down to create a multitude of sensations. 

Two hands performing an anal massage by stroking downwards on the anus

8. Stroke Up, Both Thumbs

Rub the rim up with both hands. If you're comfortable, you can also introduce a little tongue action.

Two hands performing an anal massage by stroking downwards on the anus

Progressing from Anal Massage to Anal Fingering

Once you've perfected these external anal massage moves, your partner might be ready for anal fingering.

Like anal massage, fingering can often provide incredible sensations and it involves inserting a finger or fingers into the anus for sexual pleasure. Men will usually find anal fingering particularly pleasurable because it can lead to the stimulation of the prostate, which is the equivalent to a woman’s G-spot.


Ready to continue your path from anal massage to anal penetration? You'll want to anal fingering first! Not a fan of reading? You'll love our Butt Stuff Basics Video Series on all things pertaining to the butt!

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