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Best Anal Sex Positions

Last Updated: Aug 08, 2023

Looking to spice up your anal sex positions, or perhaps you're curious to find out the best position for first time anal? We've got your back! Here's our most updated guide on the best anal sex positions.

When it comes to making anal sex feel great, it’s important to get the ergonomics and poses sorted out. The right angle or anal sex pose can make everything more comfortable and enjoyable, for both the giver and the receiver. Below are the top 10 anal sex positions for beginners & experienced players alike.

Best Anal Sex Positions Facing Down

Best anal sex position facing down

One of the reasons facing down is considered the best position for first time anal sex is that it makes everything much more accessible to the person that's penetrating. The more they can see what they're doing, the smoother things will go! That's especially true if you're starting off with analingus (AKA oral sex on the anus), anal massage, or some anal fingering to warm up.

Try lying flat with your legs apart. It's super relaxing and is often considered the easiest position for anal sex.

Best anal sex position while bending your knee

If you find this anal sex position above isn't as comfortable as you’d like, you can bend one leg at the hip and knee, resting that leg on a pillow. Find the angle that allows you to relax into the surface of the bed.

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Best anal sex position using hands and knees

Another great anal sex position that's enjoyable and effective is when you get on your elbows and knees. This angle for anal works better than hands and knees for two reasons — First, keeping your hips above your shoulders spreads the butt cheeks and gives easier access for the person penetrating. Second, using your hands and knees can put a lot of undesirable pressure on the wrists. Oh, and did we mention that it's also ideal for spanking?

Best anal sex position bending over

You can also stand on the floor and bend over the bed, the kitchen table, the hood of the car, or anything else that’s the right height and angle for anal. Put a little bend in your knees to give a little extra movement to your hips.

Word of caution: If the receiver is a vulva-owner, be careful not to let any lubricant run downhill and get onto the vulva or into the vagina. That can cause some serious problems as you don't want bacteria from the anus entering the vagina.

Best Anal Sex Positions Facing Up

Best anal sex position facing upwards

If you want to try a face-up anal sex position, start by placing a small pillow under your hips and another one under your head. That puts your spine in a C-curve and helps everything stay flexible while providing a great angle for anal penetration.

Best anal sex position using a pillow

You can also place your feet flat on the bed with your knees bent, or you can grab the backs of your knees and draw them towards your chest. Having your knees close to the chest gives more access, but might feel like it takes more effort, so find the best angle that feels enjoyable to you.

Man performing anal sex on woman

You can also do this at the edge of the bed, while the giver stands on the floor. That makes it easy for them to use their hands or a sex toy. And if you want to move towards anal intercourse, it might be the perfect angle for you.

Facing up is one of the best sex positions for first time anal because it makes it easy to include the genitals in your fun, and you have the added intimacy of eye contact. But it can also get a little tricky since the giver has to operate by feel rather than by sight. So you might have better results if you start with the facing down anal sex positions to warm up, and then shift to face up once things have gotten going.

For solo pleasure, a face-up sex position can be a good way to include genital pleasure along with your anal fun. You might need to try different angles, depending on your arm length and flexibility. Try going between your legs or around the back and see what works better for you.

Best Anal Sex Positions While On Top

Face up and face down are great for hands and toys, as well as anal intercourse and pegging. But there’s nothing stopping you from being on top, either. It's possibly THE best position for first-time anal. One advantage to being on top during anal intercourse and pegging is that the receiver is in full control of the depth and pace of penetration. You can get just the right angle and speed that works for you. Plus, there’s easy access to the genitals for some extra pleasure.

Woman sitting on top of man performing anal sex

If the receiver is a prostate-owner, he can slide down and then rock his hips from front to back. That levers the dildo or penis towards the P-spot for an out-of-this-world prostate orgasm! You can also try these first-time anal positions face to face or reverse it and face away from your lover. You can also have the giver sitting on a chair or couch, which will allow them to touch you more easily. And if you like showing off, place a mirror where you can both see it.

Woman sat on top of man facing away having anal sex

Best Anal Sex Positions Lying Sideways

For the most comfortable position for anal sex, try lying on the side of your bed. Bend your upper leg at the knee and hip, and place it on a pillow. The giver can straddle your lower leg (which is straight) and use their hands or a toy. This is also one of the best sex positions for pegging, cock warming, and anal intercourse.

Best position for anal sex lying sideways

The side-lying anal sex position is a great option for people with back or knee pain since it gives a lot of support. Lying sideways is also one of the easiest anal positions if you’re pregnant or on the bigger end of the spectrum.

Experimenting with Anal Sex Positions

These so-called 'best positions for anal sex' might work for some people, but none of them work for everyone. Even a small change in angle or leg position can make a big difference. The most important thing is for the receiver to be comfortable since that will help them stay relaxed and open. If it’s hard on your hips to lie on your back with your legs apart, use a couple of pillows to prop your knees. If face down is difficult on your shoulders, lie on a yoga bolster or stack some pillows. It might take a little experimenting to figure out the right support, and it’s totally worth it.


Did we miss out on any best positions for anal sex? Let us know! p.s. Don't forget to check out our most complete guides on analingus tipsanal traininganal hygiene, and how to have a prostate orgasm! For videos on anal play & beyond, check out our YouTube Channel.

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